What do you want from me?

Be honest, spare me the B.S.

Are you committed to being a better dad?

Or are you going to settle for average?

This morning, I attended a monthly men’s group session in beautiful Mechanicsville, Virginia.

If I’m shooting you straight, I didn’t even want to go.

It was 47 minutes from my front door.

But, in an effort to be a better dad and partner, I got my ass dressed and headed over to the men’s group.

The topic of the session was “the family meeting”

They say if you run your household like a business, it will yield as such.

Do you have structure in your home?

There’s definitely room for improvement on my side of the fence.

One of the guys, Jimmy, at the meeting said that him and his wife have a schedule.

Once a week, they go out with friends.

Once a week him and his wife have date night alone.

Once a month they take a day trip alone.

And once a quarter they take a weekend trip alone.

He went on to say that they have a list of over TEN babysitters that can watch their kids🤯

He went on to say that they have 5 kids😅😅

Idk about you, but my daughter just turned 2 and I can count on one hand the number of night she has not been with us.

Later in the meeting, he said the hardest thing for him was realizing that his identity was based around his kids and he said his pastor(who is his mentor and he has a ton of trust and respect in) told him that that’s a recipe for self destruction.

His pastor told him that his identity cannot be based around anything other than himself.

This hit me like a ton of bricks because my identity is 100% based around my baby girl.

She’s my everything.

But his pastor is right, the kids grow up and everyone else will let you down at some point.

If you want to find true purpose and fulfillment, you have to look within.

That’s hard man.

But it’s worth it.

We have to lean into who we are and what we have to offer the world.

The best way to do this, is to get crystal clear about your values.

Who are you?

What do you stand for?

I’m putting together a guide to help you get clear on who you are and what your values are.

If you want the guide,

Let me know here.

Here’s to getting clear on who we are.

Talk soon,

Dom